tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2619151975968692978.post4852648695642924323..comments2023-12-04T02:33:47.206-06:00Comments on Young, Widowed & Rebuilding: This is How We Do It, It's Friday NightWendyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18287786945607376110noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2619151975968692978.post-89751384983851343332011-04-07T13:00:07.194-05:002011-04-07T13:00:07.194-05:00Thanks Jen -- I have sort of realized, "Well,...Thanks Jen -- I have sort of realized, "Well, the cats aren't going anywhere, and I'm not about to take pictures down just for the sake of taking pictures down," so I think I'm going to worry less about what people will think of those things. I am who I am, past and cats included. Take it or not. LOL! And I did apologize for overindulging, he said he was distracted by work, but did not exactly apologize, so you're right -- ball is in his court. I've already decided that if he slips through the cracks, oh well.Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18287786945607376110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2619151975968692978.post-15794539819957449222011-04-07T12:15:04.226-05:002011-04-07T12:15:04.226-05:00Hmm. Well, without knowing all sides of the story,...Hmm. Well, without knowing all sides of the story, I'm still inclined to say forget this guy. Whatever it was that got "too weird" for him doesn't really matter. For him to leave so abruptly and then excuse it because he was preoccupied with work, well, that doesn't hold water. Especially early on in a relationship, a guy will put just about everything else to the side for a date. I'm not even suggesting any of this makes him a bad person. Something was bothering him that he couldn't talk about, and that doesn't make him bad or you bad; it probably just makes the two of you not a good fit together. Now, if he comes clean and tells you what was really bothering him and it's something you can both handle, that may change the situation. Maybe he just got a little scared but later decides he was foolish and knows he should talk it over with you. But I'd leave the ball in his court, and don't sweat over it if you don't get this result. <br /><br />Don't assume it was something you did. The right guy won't care about things like the fact that you have 3 cats or have a wedding picture on the wall. My husband knew I had recently come out of a bad, bad marriage when we met and knew I had some stuff to work through, and I also had five pets...he took on all of this because he knew it all came with the package. I hope this guy at least thanked you for cooking him dinner!!Jenarcissist @ the closet narcissisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07427993886300110387noreply@blogger.com