tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2619151975968692978.post19636265412898215..comments2023-12-04T02:33:47.206-06:00Comments on Young, Widowed & Rebuilding: Attitude AdjustmentWendyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18287786945607376110noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2619151975968692978.post-83918065617364473542011-02-09T12:45:46.835-06:002011-02-09T12:45:46.835-06:00Thank you guys. Jen, I so appreciate your input. ...Thank you guys. Jen, I so appreciate your input. I can't express what it means to me.Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18287786945607376110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2619151975968692978.post-29642310829439638822011-02-04T19:07:47.967-06:002011-02-04T19:07:47.967-06:00I second that, this definitely needs to find its w...I second that, this definitely needs to find its way to book pages. Love the post.ellie louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07155639284302437899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2619151975968692978.post-76245071956214555522011-01-30T23:44:16.065-06:002011-01-30T23:44:16.065-06:00I hope someday you publish your blog into a book. ...I hope someday you publish your blog into a book. Not only is it extremely well-written, but you are just a brave and beautiful soul if I've ever seen one. <br /><br />I was thinking of what I wanted to say as I read...but then you answered your own question in the way I was planning to...that the why isn't as important as the knowing what. And I don't think it matters if you don't know what you want right away...it seems to me you are doing a beautiful job of learning as you go along. You know yourself better than you think you do, and you already used one of my favorite keywords (resonate) :), so I know that's how you will figure these things out as you go. Plus, you've been doing it all along. You don't strike me as impulsive; you strike me as someone who's very in tune with knowing what's right for her and has the courage to go towards it. Keep on trusting that instinct, because I think yours is stronger than most people's.<br /><br />I don't think anything you did during your relationship was false or only for him...I think it's part of the natural bending process and also just part of being well-rounded and being open; maybe try to let go of putting yourself in a box and just let things flow how they need to at the time? I do, however, understand the need to redefine yourself after a person dies and the questioning of who you are now. I kind of still look at time periods in my life as "before Mom died" and "after Mom died." Of course, this redefining (or maybe the better term is "rediscovering") your identity is ten times a bigger issue when it's your spouse that you lose. But I think at some point, I stopped trying to figure it out and just let it happen. <br /><br />It's beautiful that you can take away so many new characteristics you gained from being with him that still resonate with you and that you also give yourself permission to let go of the ones that no longer do. <3Jenarcissist @ the closet narcissisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07427993886300110387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2619151975968692978.post-10362170518699851632011-01-29T13:42:20.096-06:002011-01-29T13:42:20.096-06:00But you do know, Wendy! You moved to Austin, a pl...But you do know, Wendy! You moved to Austin, a place you love. That's a huge step. You're listening to your heart and finding you want to make different choices. That's okay. You're becoming yourself. Don't fret. It's happening.<br />Love,<br />PatAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com